So I have signed up to a link that gives you a topic everyday or a question that you can answer for a month. So I will try to keep up with this... No promises......Here is today's:
Now that you're old and wise, what advice do you have for children so that they can avoid the mistakes you made?
Well for my girls at least this is my advice...
Having been the child of a teen mom & becoming a teen mom myself, I would like to break this cycle with my daughters... So my oldest has been hearing this since she could talk from me....
School is the most important thing... You can be pretty and popular and smart all at the same time. Looks fade, trust me. Friendships fade, but true friendships, not ones built on popularity will last lifetimes, it is good to be street smart but learning, or being book smart is the greatest gift you can give yourself. Don't worry about boys there will be plenty of time for them. No one you date in high school will end up being your spouse.
Go to college. Basically this is not an option it is a goal. Pick a field you would love and can make a career out of. Not just what is going to make you the most money. Don't worry about boys, there will be plenty of time for them. ( They are still boys in college.) GRADUATE.
Get a starter job, work hard, get your own apartment, create a rainy day account & do it all by yourself! ( the sense of pride you will get from this I can't even describe).
Live up your twenties with your girlfriends, travel, explore, have fun, discover who YOU are. Learn what makes YOU happy in life, what makes YOU tick, set your morals & discover your faith.. Remember the ones I instilled in you but now is your time to decide for yourself.
When you know all these things about yourself, when you know you can and you have done it on your own now you can find a partner in life, now you are ready... You have done all you wanted, you know who you are, you have achieved your goals, you have become a strong, independent woman. Now love... Because you needed to love yourself first, then love life to truly love someone else. With no regrets, no missed chances... I want for you everything I couldn't do.
Once when I said this to my daughter who is 10, she asked me:
Do you regret it Mom? Having me so young.?
I tell her No because I had you at 17 and the path that I was on you became the greatest thing I have ever accomplished and you saved my life... But I want more for you, I want you to live. Really live life. Do all the things we worked so hard for you to be able to do.
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